Hello, I've just created this account to ask this question, because I really need help.
My friend Taylor is an agnostic atheist, we often get into fights about religion, but really, that's the only thing we've ever argued about. I've known him since we were little kids, we actually met in Sunday school, but around 6th grade he stopped believing. He's really an amazing person, he's smart,and nice, and really fun to be around. We share a lot of interests too! We both love poetry, and we're both vegetarian, and we're both big Bob Dylan fans.(Except, he likes his early work, and I like his Christian music.) Taylor is my best friend, and has been for like 11 years. I've fallen in love with him, and I'm pretty sure he likes me back. The problem is, my Nana knows I like him. She figured it out when I invited him over to our house. When he left she actually asked me if I liked him, and not wanting to lie to my Nana, I told her yes. She became very furious. She said she didn't mind me being friends with a non believer,,but if we started dating she would fire me from her market. She said that working at that market is my only future, and I have to take it over when she dies. She said that being with Taylor(she actually said"the non believer)would grant me a one way ticket to Hell.
I don't know what to do, I really want to be with Taylor, but I don't want to upset my Nana, she's all I have(my dad died from congestive heart failure, and my mom died from breast cancer). And I certainly don't want to go to Hell. I've spent my whole life being a good Christian. I'm really confused, I could really use some help. What do I do?
Read the bible, you'll see god isn't all that great. But love, someone to hold dear to you. That iwhat do vegetarians not eats a wonderful feeling. SO, you can have god say hes going to hell, or you can love him and say begone imaginary idea that cost me money and is just plan dumb.
You know being a believer in Jesus Christ that being a good Christian is not the ticket to get into heaven.......
rather.....His Grace though Faith
This is a touch question and dilemma for someone young like you, but yo will find, that in the end, if your faith is important, that this is a relationship that will not work. There can be no give and take in a union brought together by God where one party mocks the Deity of Jesus Christ through unbelief and apathy.
Ask Jesus this question? What would He say. Seek an answer through scripture, not yahoo. There are plenty of Bible verses that will tell you this is a huge Red Flag.
I feel for you. Am sure he is a nice guy. If he loves you, perhaps he will have a heart change, and many of us can pray that this will work out for you.
Best thru Christ
Bri
You never had a faith to begin with. You've been deceived and will keep on deceiving others.
WTF?
Just date Taylor, who gives a f*ck what your Nana says, assuming your a teenager, these are the years you're supposed to not give a f*ck and do what you want.
:D
Christianity is a great method of controlling people :)
II Corinthians 6:14 "Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers." I don't believe that that verse applies just to marriage, but it does include marriage.
Bob Dylan is a nob.
I can't say what I really think but I can say that God loves you and the only hell you are ever likely to experience is working in a retail market and living with someone who derides your faith in God or your freedom to choose.
Is your grandmotherwhat do vegetarians not eat your minister? Is she an expert on the bible? It is absurd for her to tell you that you would be granted a one-way ticket to hell.
That said, there are a lot of factors to consider. If your nana disapproves of the relationship and plans on cutting you out of her life, it might not be worth it. The relationship might not work, but your nana will be there with you until she dies. Working at her market is not your only future - it might be a good option for you now, but there are certainly other things you could do. Is it worth it to risk alienating your family (whether or not your nana is morally right in their position on this relationship?)
In addition to the question of your nana, think about your future with Taylor, possible children, and how you would raise them. I'm guessing if you're committed to Christianity, you'll likely want to raise your children in your church. Taylor might have different ideas. Though there are certainly relationships that work with two people on very different ends of ideological spectrums, this might be one that you want to think about for a long time before you begin anything. Good luck.
you should tell taylor how you feel about him and if he likes you back, THEN you can start worrying about your nana. and working at the market doesn't HAVE to be your future. there plenty of things you can do.
Love is more powerful than any "why are we here" notion.
You can't please everybody; follow your heart. I know you don't want to upset your nana, but it's your life. Make the most out of it.
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